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“Para sa lahat ng babae na makakabasa neto, na realize ko na yung sinasabi nila na “Relasyon ang pinapatagal, hindi ang ligawan” ay mali. Kung madali ka niya nakuha, madali ka rin niyang iiwan. Kung pinaghirapan ka ng isang lalake na makuha para maging kabiyak, hindi ka niya basta basta iiwan dahil pinaghirapan ka niya. Lahat ng oras niya binigay niya sayo. Ang dami niyang nilaan sayo para lang makuha ka niya. Kaya kayo pag alam niyong pinaghirapan kayo makuha ng boyfriend niyo, mahalin niyo sila, give all your best. Magisip isip. Mahirap na kumuha ng maayos na relasyon ngayon. :)” -Benj Miranda
I read this on my friend’s facebook page. Oh well, I TOTALLY DISAGREE with him! Kasi it still depends on the couple on how they will work out their relationship, if they both really want it.
Like me and my guy, walang ligawan nangyari. We even started as a front although we both know that we like each other. Pero look at us, kami pa rin up to now. It’s been like 1 year and 5 months. Kahit nag-break kami, wala kaming naging ibang partners. Kami at kami pa rin. We know in our hearts na we really love each other, no one can replace each other. We still ended up getting together. :”> :)
I know some couples na matagal and pinag-effortan talaga ng panliligaw, pero they always have petty fights, trust issues, hiding things here and there, going out with other girls/guys. Blah blah blah.
Remember, guys would still exert effort just to get a girl whether they’re serious with her or not, para mapaniwala ka na gusto or love ka talaga nila. Lalo na yung mga manloloko, THEY ARE VERY GOOD ACTORS! Unfortunately, some guys make efforts and being sweet and all, just to have sex. :( You would really know everything once na kayo na, dun na lumalabas yung truth. If he’s still the guy you thought him to be, the one he showed you nung nanliligaw pa siya or it’s just a big scheme.
Here’s the thing, DAPAT NILILIGAWAN PA RIN ANG BABAE KAHIT KAYO NA! :) True? Very true! :) AHAHAHA.
Why is it so hard trying to be the perfect daughter, loving girlfriend, the caring sister, the best friend? It’s never enough to be just me. High expectations never seem to end, and I start wasting more of the time lecturing myself that it shouldn’t be so tough - that being a good person should be simple enough that it’s supposed to be natural to want to do good stuff and not hurt everyone around me, not act like I don’t care but sometimes I can’t even see that I’m being unfair, that I think things that break hearts, that I say stuff that tear them into parts.
But I breathe the air you breathe and I’m alive as well or do all the expectations make it so hard to tell that I have a heartbeat and it’s going pretty fast that I’m also searching for happiness that can last more than a minute and more than a day. I want it for a lifetime, I WANT IT TO STAY!
Is it bad to wish for joy and a burning passion in the heart? You make it seem that way, and my tears just find a way to start.. falling like the raindrops you see in a wild storm. Is it really a sin to want to feel alive and warm? I know I can be heartless and that I can hurt people too, but whatever I do.. I would never mean to hurt you! I know you wouldn’t, and that’s why I must hide the real person I am, the cruel girl I learned to be when too many people did the same thing to me.
But I don’t want to be her! I don’t want to hate! I want only to love, but maybe it’s too late. Maybe this is my destiny. My fortune. My fate.
That’s the reason for all the tears I cannot show.. for all the feelings that I have to bury because I know that no one could love such a monster as me… no one could care about the person I could be.
But I feel her taking over, I feel that she’s too strong to fight against and make her see that what she do is wrong, so sometimes I give in and I just play along. The worst thing is that I enjoy myself too.
And I make it sound so bad, make it feel so dire. There’s nothing wrong in wanting to feel a little real… to be bonded as like we’re together.. to chill and have some fun.. other than the things you usually do, but now I guess I’m expecting too much from you.
Maybe it’s natural to want to change the world and I know that sometimes it seems so absurd because I can’t change you and you can’t change me. Does that mean that we aren’t meant to be? It seems I’m not enough for you by just being me. I feel like I’m not the girl you want me to be.
Letting you down is my biggest fear but what are you even doing here? When it’s obvious that we weren’t made for one another. When I can see that we don’t really fit for each other! We’re nothing like that killer couple you said that we would be.. and that’s why it hurts so much just being plain old me.
